How you treat yourself is a reflection of your thoughts about yourself.
How do you treat yourself?
Do you give yourself any attention?
Do you judge yourself?
Do you focus on your bad habits or where you think you are lacking?
So many of my clients have lots of self-talk about what they, ‘should do’ or, ‘need to do’. They worry they are, ‘not good enough’, or ‘am I not spending enough time with kids’ or, ‘should I be contributing more’.
When spend so much time judging ourselves we have little energy left to love ourselves.
What if all that time spent judging yourself, arguing with yourself and putting yourself down was refocused on loving and encouraging yourself? What would that look like? Feel like?
It’s crazy when you think about it! We love and encourage our partners, friends, family, our kids. But we don’t do the same for ourselves.
How we treat our children is such a good example here. We love our children deeply, and it is from this place of love that we set boundaries, expectations and discipline. Because we love them we want them to grow and evolve, to explore and create. We want them to try, fail, learn and try again.
Then something happens. We grow up and instead of growing and developing ourselves from a place of love we try and do it from a place of judgement, fear and lack.
We think we are not enough the way we are. We think that we have to get that job, house, car, partner, kid, holiday and promotion in order to be complete, happy and fulfilled.
But what if we are enough the way we are? What if the whole point of growing and developing ourselves is because when you come from a place of love, when you truly love yourself, it is just natural to take care of yourself, nurture and nourish your body and mind, learn new things, manage your time, honor yourself and explore your potential and possibility.
I think it’s meant to be the other way around. I think we have it right with our children and we have messed it up in adulthood!
There is a tendency to see coaching and self-development work to be about, ‘where I am lacking’.
Coaching is not about growth and development from a place of lack, of beating ourselves up or pushing ourselves to excel, its not about struggle and resistance.
Coaching is about learning to love and accept yourself, to be happy RIGHT NOW and then deciding to build a business, develop yourself personally and improve your mental health. You decide to do these things not because they will complete you, but simply because you want to. Because love and happiness drives us to grow.
Growth and evolving is the whole point of our existence!
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