Hi Laura. This is a hard question for me to ask. I have not spoken to anyone about this – not even my best mates.
My wife and I have not had sex in over 3 years.
We have 3 kids. During her first pregnancy she was not interested in sex and I understood that. Then there was a year of breastfeeding, I’m too tired, I dont feel good in my body, I have no sex drive. This has continued. I am confident she isn’t seeing anyone else, nor am i. I love my wife and respect her but I feel this lack of intimacy and when honest with myself, it is something I want in my marriage and am concerned about this continuing. I find that I am watching more and more porn, drinking more and spending more time with mates and avoiding spending time with her because I feel a lack of connection. We are in many ways 2 roommates raising 3 kids. I know that this can be a stage, having young kids and lack if sleep is not easy. I want to get to a place where I feel at peace rather than this place of fear something is wrong, worry about the future and feeling isolated in my marriage. She does not want to have sex with me, that is my reality, I just dont know what to do with this reality that will make me feel better about it…. Thank you for your time and loving this work – more men need to get onboard so I feel confident to come to a live call!!