I read that you had IVF – so that with your coaching I am hoping you can help me here.
I have been trying to have a baby for over a year now, we are doing IVF as I have diagnosed PCOS and other fertility issues.
I feel sorry for myself and jealous of others. My sister just announced her pregnant – she is 3 years younger than me! I bawled my eyes out.
I have had a number of miscarriages and failed cycles.
I know that there is a lot that I can not control here – I have changed my lifestyle, lost weight, manage stress as best as I can – but I cant control the fact that I am infertile right now. How do I manage my self pity? How can I change how I feel when I can not change my infertility? Where can I go from here?
Thank you xx
I did have IVF for both of my daughters, and my eldest took just under 2 years of fertility treatment. I also have PCOS and had others issues with oestrogen being low.
So much love to you right now. I know how hard this time is – and managing how you feel is more challenging than ever.
Please don’t layer onto of your jealousy and stress guilt for those feelings – you are allowed to feel jealous, sad and worried – dont try and push them down, that never works.
But you are telling me you want to feel better about the circumstances you are in.
How do you want to feel? At peace? Present? Calm? Identify what emotion you want to feel more of.
The know – you do not have to change your PCOS in order to feel better. What I want you to think about is what you can change…? You can change how you are thinking.
Fear, worry etc come from spinnig about how things have not worked in the past and how they may not work in the future – 2 things we have no control over. Thoughts that keep you in the present will help here.
I am not pregnant right now and that is OK
We are sad about this and that is Ok
We are doing this together
Life is not fair, I can handle this and whatever comes
This is not in my control, it never will be, and that is Ok
This is meant to happen, how do I know this? Because it is happening.
I am throwing out all the plastics and chemicals in the house and this is perfectly reasonable.
The last one was one of mine…I threw out a lot of Tupperware 🙂
Love and hugs to you my friend. Post here if you want to do more on this xox