I tend to go unconscious in the evenings and over eat. I start the day well but come the end of the day repeat the same behaviour of snacking, eating dinner, snacking and then almost putting myself to bed to stop eating! I know that this is causing me to be a little over my ideal weight but my excuses are that it is the only time of day I get for myself and that I deserve it. When I stop as you suggest, get off the field and take a look, the thoughts and feelings are that I am having are that I am overweight because of this, I know it, I still do it, I should be ashamed of myself then I feel shame and embarrassed. Yet I keep doing it! Why? I know I can push myself to avoid snacking for a few days or weeks – but I keep returning to this habit. Appreciate your help here. Thank you.
You have to be willing to feel the shame first.
So you want to lose some weight.
You think that this reality is all your fault and blame yourself for where you are at the moment.
This is causing you to feel ashamed and embarrassed.
So you continue to overeat in the evenings.
Shame makes you want to hide. This is stopping you from taking action.
Listen to the Q and A call from this month – I talk about how emotions leave us, we dont get rid of them. What you control is the thinking.
First be willing to feel the shame. Open up to it, soften and allow that emotion without eating. You will realise you can feel this feeling. It isn’t harming you, you are doing that, not the feeling.
Take notice of what you are saying to yourself at this moment.
You have been overeating in the past because you didn’t know how to handle your emotions. You didn’t know any better, remember that and drop the shame and blame you are putting on yourself.
Now you know better. You have the tools to handle these feelings. You can allow them and take time to learn how to feel them and not overeat.
It is time to take a good look at yourself, with compassion, at your actions, at what you are eating, and what you are thinking.
You have got this and I have your back here. Open up (shame causes you to close down) just open up and allow whatever comes up in the evenings, the entitlement, shame, loneliness, boredom, resentment…whatever comes up, its all ok, its nothing to be ashamed of its part of being human!
Post back again with how things go.