I am able to manage my mind with everyone and every thing else but my mother in law. She triggers me every time and I become this toddler who rages and exhausts myself every time. It causes a divide between me and my husband as I feel he always defends her, neve takes my side. My thoughts are terrible about her – she is judgemental, dumb, rude, racist, unkind, manipulative – i am not proud to admit this. How do I turn this around? She is in our lives, i cant change that, how can we co-exist when we are at such opposite ends of the world in how we view everything?