I run a ‘successful’ business but I am really struggling to take any credit for this. I will explain my fickle thoughts further! I have built my business up over 6 years and am really proud of it, however whenever clients or employees talk about how great the business is to work for or what a good service it is, I immediately thank everyone else and never take credit for it. For example, if someone says ‘wow, how great that you started your own business’ I will say ‘it’s all thanks to my accountant, he is amazing and always pushes me’, if another person says ‘we are so thrilled with your service’ my answer would be ‘*Kate did all the work on this placement, she is amazing’. I feel like I would be better at my job and more confident (not hiding behind everyone else) if i actually said to myself ‘you do work hard and you have put a lot of blood sweat and tears into making the business what it is today’. Even writing that sentence, I want to thank everyone else. I live in fear that someone might catch me out and realise that I’m a fake and that it’s actually everyone else who works hard! I know I work hard, I know I love what I do, but is it that the ‘hard jobs’ I don’t find hard and therefore can’t acknowledge that I am actually working?? I hope this all makes sense, what a rambling question!! Thanks Laura xx
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Hello Lovely…
So here is the thing.
Those sentences you are saying…
‘my accountant pushes me’
‘Kate did all the work on that placement’
Are a reflection of your thoughts.
Why do you have to work hard long hours to be good at what you do??? I would have thought that if you are good at it you worked less than most and got better results? Like a well-established, successful business? 😉
You are very focused on work having to be hard.
What if work wasn’t meant to be hard?
I remember lawyers plodding away in their office from 7am to well past 9pm…they tended to be the junior ones, just out of uni, it was hard for them because they had NO idea what they were doing! You are not one of your staff, you run the business, you started it, you understand how it works, all the pieces of the puzzle, you manage the overall picture – you know what you are doing so stop pretending otherwise and own that business!
Your reality is that you have a successful business.
Your thought is that you did it all because your accountant pushed you
Your feeling is ?? like an impostor?
You would 100% feel better and work with more energy if you started to think that you were the creator of your reality! (BTW you are)
Here are a few to try on:
I started this business from scratch and am killing it.
I have a business that employs many people and provides for their families.
I did the hard yards before I had a family and now I work smart and engage a team that supports me and my business.
You have done the hard work.
You have put the time, blood, sweat and tears in.
Now it’s a successful established business.
Don’t work harder.
Think smarter!
They way you do this?
I suggest you pick a new thought that makes you feel better and put it on the top of your schedule every day, remind yourself, you have practiced thinking this way for a long time, you have to practice a new way now.
And remember. Business is not easy. There is a reason Kate works for you. She doesn’t want to have her own business I suspect, most people think they do then look into it and realise that they don’t. Kate is good at her job, that is just one piece of the puzzle of a placement – you orchestrate the placement – you created the puzzle!
xxx