On this weeks call there was a question about healing from the loss of a child. I really tough question and I saw that it took it out of you. How do you as a coach (I am studying to be a coach) not let coaching sessions drain you and burn you out? I can imagine this work can be very challenging at times, not taking on other peoples pain? Any tips or advice?
A good question.
It is about holding space for your clients.
It is not about you, it is always about them.
That said, as someone who is quite sensitive despite doing my best not to appear so, it can be challenging. Taking on other people’s pain is something you have to be very aware of. Clients dont need you to be their friend, they have plenty of them, they first and foremost need you to listen to them, really listen, then sit way back in the grandstand and encourage them to come sit next to you to see their life from there.
As far as tips.
Self care. Whatever that looks like for you. Make it essential.
Time between clients, dont have back to back clients all day.
And for me, walking and thinking about my clients, really contemplating them and where they are at with compassion, helps me hold space for them and serve as best I can.
Hope this is useful xx