I have discovered this month that I over eat (I am not overweight but I snack a lot in the evening) is to avoid having to go to bed with my husband.
I stay up and snack until I feel bloated so I can tell him I feel uncomfortable having sex because my stomach is so full.
Is this normal??
It’s not every night, 4-5 out of 7.
My husband loves to be intimate, not always sex, but he likes to also cuddle, touch me, hold my stomach as he sleeps.
I hate being touched all the time, this came about after having the kids, I need space.
The snacking is a way to avoid the conversation.
How do I have the conversation without hurting his feelings?
Do I need to have the conversation?
Still snacking…right now as I type this. Gah!
I love you babe, I need some space in bed tonight, the kids have been on me all day.
You are not responsible for how he feels.
You are responsible for how you think, feel and act/deliver the message.
First lets look at how you think.
‘I hate being touched since the kids were born’
This is what is causing the snacking, not your husbands desire to touch you in bed and cudddle your body.
How do you want to feel about being touched?
I know some days we all want space, some of us more days than not, but when it comes to being touched by your husband overall do you want to feel good about it?
I am not suggesting you want it every day.
But do you want to feel good about him touching you period?
You can ask for space
You dont have to snack and get bloated to get space.
Stop snacking.
That will open up the space between the thought ‘I hate being touched’ and the action ‘snacking’.
You need to get into that space my friend.
The conversation is the easy bit 😉
Xx