THANK YOU FOR THIS WORK
LOVE IT AND GETTING SO MUCH FROM YLD IN BOTH MY WORK AND PERSONAL LIFE
THIS LAST MONTHS HAS BEEN CHALLENING IN THAT I HAVE HAD TO
– BURY MY MOTHER
– SACK 3 STAFF FOR BREACH OF EMPLOYMENT CONTRACT (AND POSSIBLE CRIMINAL ACTION)
– REPORT THESE STAFF TO POLICE
– TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE WAVES THIS HAS CAUSED WITHIN THE BUSINESS
I HAVE MANAGED SO WELL FOR THE LAST 6 WEEKS WHEN ALL OF THIS WENT DOWN
THEN LAST WEEKEND IT WAS LIKE I BECAME ANOTHER PERSON
I GOT DRUNK, VERY DRUNK, AT A FAMILY BBQ THEN CRIED ALL EVENING TO MY HUSBAND AND SPENT SUNDAY IN BED FEELING HORRIFIC
I FELT LIKE I PROCESSED THE CHALLENGES WITH WORK AND LOOSING MUM WHO HAD BEEN SO SICK AND IN PAIN FOR YEARS – BUT THEN THIS?!
I WAS TIRED FRIDAY AND I KNOW THIS WAS PART OF IT
BUT MY BEHAVIOUR WAS EXTREEME
WHAT IF ANYTHING SHOULD I DO WITH THIS LITTLE EVENT?!
I FEEL SCARED BY THE FACT THAT I HAPPENED AND AT RISK THAT I WILL HAPPEN AGAIN?
Look at your language
Talk about this like you had an out of body experience
That someone took over your body and made you get drunk
Want you to think about it like this
I have had a full on 6 weeks
Lots happening at work and in my personal life
On Saturday i was tired and i decided to drink and i over drank and became drunk
I then became emotional
I am human
Humans sometimes do this kind of thing
There is nothing wrong with me, nothing bad about me, I am safe and I am responsible for my actions
– what was i thinking in the days ahead of Saturday – write it all down
– what was i thinking sat morning – write it down
– how was i feeling
– why was i tired
– how had i been living? Eating, sleeping, exercise, sunlight?
– what had i been working on?
– what else was going on?
Do a full deep dive
Dig for any lessons or growth
What is the lesson
Was it tiredness
What was the internal dialogue and how may it have been part of the driver of your drinking?
Do you need to apologise to anyone?
Do you need to do any work around your mum dieing that you haven’t yet?
Do you need to talk to someone?
What tools or people can you’ll turn to for support if needed?
How do you want to handle things next time? Have a plan.
Then let it GO
Let it BE
Learn and move on my friend
Remember that if we spend too much time trying to be perfect and shaming on our moments of unconscious decision making we miss the opportunity to live.
Be kind to yourself my friend. Be a friend to yourself. Take care of you. Life is messy sometimes.