MANAGING OVERWHELM & LEARNING HOW TO SELF-COACH TO A BETTER OUTCOME
I have always been very driven, hardworking and determined to achieve my goals. I found myself in a position where I had achieved my short term goals, and hadn’t given much thought to what I wanted my life to look like beyond that. So without this constant drive to achieve I felt directionless and lost.
I work in a large multinational organisation that is well known for asking a lot from its staff – long hours, high pressure and high stress environment. Most people come into the organisation understanding these high expectations but taking it as an opportunity to achieve huge professional growth and reward along the way. However, this often results in people leaving because they struggle to balance their personal life with the demands of work and decide it’s not the life they want. This happened to over half my team in a period of 12 months.
It left me feeling drained and over worked. It made me ask myself if this is really what I wanted for my future. I felt like I had given most of myself to my career in the last 5 years and let go of some of the things that I enjoy and identify with.
At breaking point I reached out to HR and after listing to me for a while she suggested I speak with Laura. I was a little sceptical at first. I have always been quite proud of my strength and resilience, and particularly when it came to my mental state. I didn’t want a counsellor. I just wanted the answer! To understand what I really wanted in life so that I could do what I do best… go get it!
I met with Laura and told her a little about myself. I was comforted by her understanding of my situation and my thoughts. So I set out with the intention of getting as much out of my time with Laura as possible. I promised myself that I would be completely open and honest with myself and complete all the tasks.
We have been seeing each other fortnightly for the last 8 weeks. In between meetings I prepare work books provided by Laura and often have daily homework tasks to complete. I have found the work books a really good opportunity to self-reflect and understand myself better. They are structured in such a way that lead you to discovering your own personal solutions.
In particular, I have really enjoyed understanding my personal values and how to live them out in any situation, and why that is best for me. I have also really benefited from understanding the impact my thoughts have on my state of mind, and how to self-coach to a better outcome.
I’ve learned to slow down and be more deliberate with my time and energy. I’ve learned that it’s not all about the destination, but about being true to yourself on the journey. Laura has taught me that there will always be problems in life, and that I just need to choose which problems I want to have.
I now feel a lot more in control of my feelings and responses because I am better managing my thoughts. There are still times that I feel overwhelmed but I am more equipped to handle these difficult situations. I would definitely recommend Laura’s coaching to my friends and family. It’s so good just understanding better how to be me.